Building Perspective by Marin Funderburg
“Taking a step back and think.” This phrase sounds so simple, so easy. Of course, I can take a step back and think. However, when the pressure is on, deadlines, like storm clouds, begin to loom, and there is no let-up at school, home, and work, it is clear that saying “you can take a step back” is a lot easier than actually doing it.
I am no stranger to saying I can give myself a break, then spending hours on other tasks. With college admissions, advanced placement classes, numerous clubs, and a job, I hardly even get a chance to breathe. When I get stressed and overwhelmed, my first thought is that I hardly ever need to take a break. All I want to do is just keep working, and keep pushing through. I think that once the tasks are over I will feel better, or that there is some reward for getting everything done. However, pushing through is always met with resistance. Whether it’s physical exhaustion from skipping sleep to meet deadlines, or mental exhaustion from never giving myself a moment of peace, burnout becomes inevitable.
It takes time, but building perspective on an issue and learning to take a break can be one of the most rewarding things a person can do. By giving yourself some grace, rationalization, and perseverance begin to bloom. You may not even think that you are headed towards burnout or are very overwhelmed, but your body will send signals when in distress, and it is important that you understand and honor them so that you can move forward.
There are warning signs that you are overworked and getting close to burnout:
Physically, you may get headaches, feel nauseous constantly, and experience changes in mood and appetite. Your body will be drained, and you might not have the energy to do the difficult tasks.
Mentally, you may feel helpless or like a failure. You could lose your motivation and become cynical. This is a dangerous territory to fall into and can be very hard to get out of.
Recognizing that you might be burning yourself out is the first, very painful step in accepting a new perspective. Thankfully, becoming conscious of your actions and how they make you feel does not have to be an uphill battle.
The next step is accepting the situation you are in. When you acknowledge that you need help and begin to search for help, you are closer to relief than you know. It may be a lot of trial and error, but with practice, patience, and an open mind, you will find the coping and mindful techniques that work for you.
Here are some possible perspective-gaining and stress-relief options.
Take some deep breaths. It may sound too simple, but taking some deep breaths can provide some much-needed clarity and can help the body de-stress. Let the breath flow through you; think about how it moves through your body, while relaxing your muscles.
Set times to take a break. Give yourself at least thirty minutes to relax during a busy day. Whether it be a power nap or just some time on your phone. Just don’t feel confined to only one short break; take as much time as you need. The work will always be there, so do what is best for you.
Learn mindful skills like meditation and journaling to channel your thoughts and energy into something peaceful. I recently started journaling, and as I write, I feel so much more connected to my mind and body. I can let out all my thoughts, and with it, I let out all my stress.
Speak to people who you trust. Above all, I believe that speaking to someone who cares about you can make a huge difference. Do not be afraid to talk to relatives, friends, or a therapist who can provide support and comfort during your journey.
The final step is putting all your techniques together and applying them in your real life.When you feel yourself begin to go down the rabbit hill, stop and practice your new healthy habit.
In the end, it may be hard to recognize that you need a break. Maybe, you do not believe you have “earned one.” It can be hard to break the negative cycle that you have become accustomed to. But, I promise you that taking even just a few minutes to think about what you are doing and if it is what is best for your health can help guide you on a mindfulness journey. Remember: you, your health, and your emotions are important. There will always be stressful times, but learning to cope and prioritize yourself is crucial.
Do not be afraid to give up on the things that hurt you because your body, mind, and soul will thank you.
Additional tools for when you may be in crisis:
U.S. Crisis Text Line: 741-741
Ohio Mobile Response and Stabilization Services: 1-888-418-MRSS (6777)